Who are you dancing with?

Who are you dancing with?

I had this idea swimming in my mind last night… but I am not sure I remember what I was supposed to right. But here goes.

I see walking with Christ sometimes like a dance, yes it is a race, but for a woman I can see describe it as a dance. Christ leads making you more beautiful with ever step. You can feel where he wants your feet to go next, and when you make a mistake, he patiently waits for you to recover your rhythm. He never makes a false step, never goes to fast, never spins you to hard. He teaches you new steps gently and he is intent on making you beautiful. Now this is the perfect dance. With Christ.

This is what I feel should happen when God someday brings me the Man who can ask to cut in while I am dancing with Him. Then Jesus will say, “Lead her well, do not hurt her, be careful with my beloved daughter. You may dance with her a song but always remember she is Mine.” And my husband will nod, take my hand and lead me in the dance. He will not be as prefect as Christ, but he will be better than me. He will know the steps, keep rhythm, pay attention to me and also be intent on making me beautiful. This dance will be fun! He will spin me on beat, dip me, life me in to the air. We will laugh and talk, but the whole time he is taking care of me.

When people dance together I always have such respect to the men who actually know how to dance. You see this is what the men have to do: They have to KNOW the steps. They have to KEEP time and rhythm. They have to Listen to the music and move to it. They have to LEAD their partner into steps. And they have to PROTECT and PAY ATTENTION to their partner. And they have to THINK up what is coming next and PLAN AHEAD. And his intention will be to make me more BEATUIFUL with every step.

This is a lot to do all at once don’t you think?

Now boys don’t get all high and mighity now. We woman have to follow what you send to us. We have to know what you are thinking and about to do with out verbal keys. We have to understand listen to follow what you lead. That is hard. We never know what is coming, this is all an adventure for us.

That is how God made men and women. Our roles fit together in a perfect dance. He leads I follow, it is impossible to do alone and each must do what he or she is supposed to and it is the most beautiful, joyful adventure any human will ever have.

Now, this is what I am afraid many of you, my dear girlfriends, are looking for or even have.

Are you dancing with a boy who doesn’t know the steps, doesn’t listen to the music, doesn’t keep rhythm and does not send the right signals. It is dancing with you to make himself look good? Is he a poorer dancer than you are? Does his dance neither excite you or bring you joy? Is it not an adverture?

The worst dance partners are boys who think they know what they are doing, but they hardly know any moves and they lead them badly. They don’t follow the steps of the dance and send ques that are confusing. But they main thing is that they are out there to make themselves look good. They are not concerned with me at all. They don’t look at me, they just spin me awkwardly and roughly. They get annoyed when I don’t follow a ‘cool’ more because they don’t actually know how to read it. And they are not dancing with me, they are dancing for themselves.

That is not a good realtionship.

Now I am making this sound an awful lot like it is all about the girl… well from his point of view it is. He is trying to make me beautiful to glorify the man who gave me to him. Jesus is watching me dance with him, and my husband wants to glorify Jesus’ name by leading me the best way possible. And I in return follow well to try to make my dance partner look good, and more importantly glorify Christ with him.


Now the question is, who are you dancing with?

Are you single and dancing with Christ alone? Contenet, happy, enthralled, never wanting to dance with anyone else. There is no one else in the room. You aren’t looking at anyone but him even to the point to where your husband asks to cut in you are offended until Christ puts the joy in your heart to dance with him. Why would you want to dance with anyone else? Christ is in love with you. Dancing with him is safe and pefect. Stay with him.


Are you with someone who is leading you poorly. He doesn’t follow the music (The Sprit) he doesn’t know the moves (The Word) and he is not concerned with you. Is her jerking you around, not sanctifying you to Christ, not holding your hand to honor the GOD who made that hand. Does he see you as the gift from God the he begged for, for years and does he treat you as a priceless child of God that Christ has loaned him to HELP him glorify the God who created both of you and the Savior who saved both of you? If not. Do not dance with him any longer. You are not stuck, flee to Christ and back into the most beautiful dance ever.


Or are you with the Man who leads you strongly, but gently and lovingly. He is leading you to make you beautiful and protecting you to honor Jesus. Then good for you, and don’t let him go until he hands you hand back into Christ’s.

Or are you dancing with Christ looking around for someone else to dance with because you are not content to be with Christ? Are you searching for someone ANYONE to dance with, just to be dancing. My daughter, my friends, my sisters, you ARE dancing. You are with the PERFECT man, the ONLY perfect man to ever walk the earth is in love with YOU. Why are you looking for love anywhere else? Why are you not enthralled in his beauty as he is with yours that HE gave you. If Christ, the GOD of the universe is making you more and more lovely every day who are you to be ashamed or critical of his work? And who are you to want anything else?

Day dreams...

Day Dream Thing..

Psalm 119: 1-8
Blessed are those whose way is blameless,
Who walk in the law of the LORD!
Blessed are those who keep his testimonies.
Who seek him with their whole heart,
Who also do no wrong
But walk in his ways!
You have commanded your precepts
to be kept diligently.
Oh that my ways my be steadfast in keeping your statutes!
Then I shall not be put to shame,
Having my eyes fixed on all your commandments.
I will praise you with an upright heart,
When I learn your righteous rule.
I will keep your statutes;
Do not utterly forsake me!

Psalm 119:12-16
Blessed are you, Oh LORD; teach me your statutes!
With my lips I declare all the rules of your mouth.
In the way of your testimonies I delight as much as in all riches.
I will meditates on your precepts and fic my eyes on your ways. I will delight in your statutes;
I will not forget your word.

Psalm 119: 27
Make me understand the way of your precepts,
And I will meditate on your wondrous works.

Ok, this is my deal. I, as most girls, day dream. Its fun you can take yourself off into some wondrous world of adventure and romance. I am so sure that I am the ONLY girl who does this, ( I am rolling my eyes). I tend to dream about my future husband.

You dream of the Perfect Man, and if you have one in mind you think of him, and if not you make up the perfect GODLY man. And I don’t think that this is wrong. We live in a time where finding a Godly man is fairly hard to find. And we hope and pray that God will bring us “The One” , but in the mean time we can dream.

Now I am the worst, I want to be a missionary so I dream up some awesome adventure with an Indiana Jones type missionary counterpart who sweeps me off my feet. My dreams are full of danger and adventure and all sorts of awesomeness. (Sorry, girls, Indi trumps Edward 9 out of…well 9 times)

This is what we do.
If there is not particular guy we dream up the perfect one
And if there is the perfect one sitting next to you in class you skip that part.

Then we dream up how he will ask us out or how we meet in some awesome way.

Then how the relationship grows and is, again, awesome.

Then we dream up the perfect proposal… wonderfully romantic and thoughtful and perfect…

Then the wedding and then the life together, which for me entails missions and adventure and blah blah blah
Now, here I my challenge.

When you start this dreaming think of Jesus instead. Think of his wondrous glories, his marvelous wonder. Think of who he IS! Think of the God who created the universe. Created you and saved you.

If you want to ponder love, dwell on his love for you. The perfect romance, the prefect love. Let you mind drift towards the Christ, rather than to your future husband.

If God has a husband for you, wait on him, wait on the LORD his timing in perfect. But for now focus on Jesus, let your mind meditate on HIM!

Now, yes, pray for your future husband, as always, but let your mind Day dream about the Lover that you have right now, your savior king the LORD of power who rides the white horse and loves you with a passion that no earthly man could. Dream about him because he is with you and loves you NOW.